the "fallen" excuse

i am amazed at the number of evangelicals that claim to follow christ, and then hurt someone so bad that the other person leaves the church, and the "excuse" of the one doing the hurting is "well, we live in a fallen world." - to me, that is the greatest of "christian cop outs." in john's first letter he writes:

Every God-begotten person conquers the world's ways. The conquering power that brings the world to its knees is our faith. [1 john 5:4]

our faith brings change, but that change first starts with people - changed people - people who overcome the "fallen" line and simply love others. i think, and this is my personal view, that people do not love because they do not know God - they know the church, they know the bible, they know religion, but they do not know God and they do not follow christ. in my mind, the time for excuses is over, and the time to love is now. when we love others, we transend this world, and we get closer to God - but to love others means we need to go beyond oursleves, and into the lives of others. we need to get out of our houses and start to go into the houses of others. how can you love? what will be the guide to love this day?