philippians 1:9-11 - learning to love

So this is my prayer: that your love will flourish and that you will not only love much but well. Learn to love appropriately. You need to use your head and test your feelings so that your love is sincere and intelligent, not sentimental gush. Live a lover's life, circumspect and exemplary, a life Jesus will be proud of: bountiful in fruits from the soul, making Jesus Christ attractive to all, getting everyone involved in the glory and praise of God. [philippians 1:9-11]

one of the things i think the church is missing is the understanding of love. we replace it with rules and "law." we think that when we tell people what to do, we are loving them - we have a worldly twisted view of love and we placed it into the church. we need to learn to love deeply, totally and well.